Dear Abigail Van Buren tells a husband ...What to do?

HUSBAND WANTS WHAT'S BEST FOR HIS WIFE -- EVEN DIVORCE By Abigail Van Buren Mon Jun 27,10:13 AM ET DEAR ABBY: Last night I was having trouble accessing the Internet on my computer and wanted to see if my wife's laptop was having the same problem. When I opened her computer, I found she had left open an e-mail from a family friend, and my name caught my eye. The letter was about how much he and she loved each other, and what they should do about it because they didn't want to hurt me. I didn't read any further, and I haven't mentioned to my wife that I saw it. I can understand what's behind it -- I'm almost 40 and I've gained a lot of weight in recent years. I have never been a great husband, and my wife has made it clear she doesn't feel the same way about me as she once did. The man who wrote to her is a really nice person, and I trust both of them enough that I doubt there is anything physical going on. They're just trying to deal with their emotions. Complicating things, my wife and I have an 8-year-old daughter. What should I do? I want my wife to be happy, and maybe she'd be happier with him than with me. I know she wouldn't want to hurt me, so I'd rather not let her know how badly this has wounded me because it would make her feel awful. Counseling is pretty much out of the question, because she would not be comfortable with that. I feel like all I can do is find a way to get out of the picture and let her go on with her life, but I hate the thought of being away from her and our daughter because I love them both very much. Do I have any options here, or am I as trapped as I feel? -- DEVASTATED IN SANTA MONICA DEAR DEVASTATED: Let me get this straight. Your wife is having an affair, definitely emotional and possibly physical, and you don't want to confront her because you're afraid it might hurt HER? She has "made it clear" she doesn't feel the same way about you that she once did, and you're afraid that marriage counseling might make HER uncomfortable? Sir, it's time to get your head straight -- and the quickest way to do it is counseling for yourself to discover where you left your self-esteem. Before you make any decisions about the future of your marriage, it is vital that you get some therapy. Sneaking away is not the answer; the answer is putting your house in order.

An afternoon in Islamabad, capital of Pakistan.

ISLAMABAD - (Pak) June 30, 2005: Amal-tas trees present an eye-catching view along side a road in Islamabad. — A couple shares a motor-bike ride in the afternoon. APP

New Chief Justice of Pakistan takes oath of his office. Can we hope for JUSTICE?

ISLAMABAD - June 28, 2005: President Gen Pervez Musharraf administers oath to Chief Justice of Pakistan Iftikhar Mohammad Chaudhry at a ceremony in Islamabad on Thursday. Prime Minister Shaukat Aziz is also present.—APP

ISLAMABAD - June 30, 2005: Leader of the opposition in the National Assembly Maulana Fazlur Rehman and Minister of State for Information and Broadcasting Anisa-zeb Tahir-kheli at the seminar on ‘free, fair and credible elections’ here on Thursday.—APP.

Pakistan's biggest liberal to be remembered ....

PPP to observe 'black day' on July 5Our correspondentISLAMABAD: The Pakistan Peoples Party will observe black day on July 5 as on this day in 1977, General Ziaul Haq overthrew the democratically elected government of Prime Minister Zulifiqar Ali Bhutto.

29 Pakistani women named for Nobel Peace Prize* Asma Jahangir, others say they don’t deserve it Staff Report LAHORE: A regional committee has nominated 29 Pakistani women for the 2005 Nobel Peace Prize. The nominations of 1,000 women from 150 countries were announced across the world on Wednesday.

The Opening Day in New York where leaders from both parties are present

Opening Day ....

The New York Times June 30th,2005

American Civil War Historian Died

Shelby Foote, R.I.P.

by Armando

Tue Jun 28th, 2005 at 11:43:32 PDT

The popular Civil War historian Shelby Foote has died:

Novelist and historian Shelby Foote, whose Southern storyteller's touch inspired millions to reads his multivolume work on the Civil War, has died. He was 88.

President Bush for Pakistani & Indian Goods.

Bush restores US market access for Indian, Pakistani goods

WASHINGTON: US President George W. Bush on Wednesday restored duty-free access to US markets for some goods from India and Pakistan, citing progress on intellectual property and worker rights, respectively.

In a proclamation released by the White House, the president said he was acting under the Generalized System of Preferences (GSP) trade rules and the US Trade Act of 1974.

 

Pakistan: What price Sovereignity ?

Wahid Butt of Lahore writies;
Reference ‘Perked up Nationalism’ by Sadaf Sartaj (May 28/2005). The good lady has drawn attention to what Lt-Gen. David Barno, Commander US Forces in Afghanistan, said which is reproduced here: “Collectively we feel that there is a need to under take a military operation in North Waziristan to keep pressure on the terrorists”. The learned writer has a question: Isn’t it interference in our internal affairs? If it is, then what price our sovereignty?
The US General is fully aware of the fact that General Pervez Musharraf acquired power through a coup d’etat. He runs a sham democracy at home and is so weak that he accepted to become a front-line ally of the US against terrorism on just one telephone call from the Secretary of State General Collin Powell.

        The ‘elected’ parliament in Pakistan, actually a rubberstamp, has passed a bill allowing General Musharraf to remain as President and COAS in uniform until 2007. Hence what price sovereignty, dignity and independence. These are mere words for this tin-pot dictator.

-WAHID BUTT, Lahore, via e-mail.

www.nation.com.pk   dated June 30th, 2005 (letters)

A murderer of his own family

Kills his own 9 kids ... Jury recommends death for Calif. (USA) man convicted of murdering his 9 children -

I lost 3 brothers and 2 sisters because of BAD Water. Take Care.

Thank you.......

"Emi-mouse" is the nick name of my sister, who has sent me the following words of wisdon. Enjoy but take care that you drink the healthy water.

.................. One glass of water shuts down midnight hunger pangs for almost 100% of the dieters studied in a University study. Lack of water is the #1 trigger of daytime fatigue. Preliminary research indicates that 8-10 glasses of water a day could significantly ease back and joint pain for up to 80% of sufferers. A mere 2% drop in body water can trigger fuzzy short-term memory, trouble with basic math, and difficulty focusing on the computer screen or Drinking 5 glasses of water daily decreases the risk of colon cancer by 45%, plus it can slash the risk of breast cancer by 79%, and one is 50% less likely to develop bladder cancer. Are you drinking the amount of water you should every day? (No kidding, all of the above is true...) Of course, too much water may have strange side effects...

A kind friend has posted his comment to the above contribution which is very interesting. So I am posting it on my page for your interest.

porchwise said... According to Discover magazine, all the figures you've used are erroneous now. The newest studies show you should let your body determine your water intake. Don't ask me how you do this, that's the mystery that hasn't been explained yet. Wednesday, 29 June, 2005.

The latest news about water from Pakistan where ...

Contaminated water kills 13 in LahoreLAHORE:Pakistan, At least 13 people have died and more than 1,000 others needed medical treatment after drinking water contaminated with sewage in Lahore, officials said on Thursday.

All this was a joke to bring smile on others' face and, you still dont get it .... how could you?

Then go to the original letter which was sent to me now poste in 'Comments'

Muktharan Mai of Pakistan gets JUSTICE.

All people in Pakistan who love to see respect of women were happy at today's decision of the supreme Court of Pakistan, when it reversed the lower Court's decision, in which all rapist were given the benefit of doubt and, acquitted. Only one rapist was sentened to life imprisonment. With the new decision all the 13 stand guilty and sentensed.

Muktharan Mai is coming to the USA on July 2nd and will be speaking at a convention being organized by various Women Welfare Organizations in Houston, Texas, USA.

A Convention for the Rights of Women of Pakistan

Dr. Shazia Khalid and Muktharan Mai are to attend a Convention on Women's Rights at Houston, Texas, on July 2nd, 2005. This convention is being organized by ANAA with the help of other human rights organizations including Asia Society, GR Brown Convention Center and Voices Breaking Boundaries.

Contact for further information ..........

www.4anaa.org

...OR ...

Akif Ahmed akif_ahmed@hotmail.com

Naila Qureshi nailaq@asiaoc.org ..

Phones: 512-560-7798 + 713-439-0051

The latest about Dr. Shazia Khalid:

I’m still terrified: Dr Shazia ISLAMABAD, June 29: A lady doctor whose rape in the southern province of Balochistan last year sparked tribal clashes says she is still terrified. “I was threatened so many times in Pakistan that I still feel scared,” Dr Shazia Khalid told the BBC... Source. www.dawn.com dated June 30, 2005

The 10 Commandments - actions and reactions.

TOP STORY of the DAY

Displays divide justices

WASHINGTON - The Supreme Court gave government officials a mixed message about Ten Commandments displays on public property: You can put them up, just don't be too religious about it. [ more ] Source: www.joplinglobe.com

Mukhtaran Mai's passport returned but can she travel to the USA?

She faces contempt of Court now, it is learnt according to the latest report. It is another way to block her travel abroad......... ISLAMABAD, June 27: Mukhtaran Mai said on Monday that she had received her passport. “I have received the passport late night,” she said smilingly when asked about the passport in the Supreme Court during a tea-break. She was prevented from going to the United States on an invitation by a non-governmental organization (NGO). She was to speak on the plight of Pakistani women. However, her passport was seized and her name was put on the exit control list (ECL).

"10 Commandments" - You may display at SOME Places ?

Court: Some Commandments Displays OK Mon, 27 Jun 2005 08:05 pm PDT AP - The Supreme Court ruled Monday that displaying the Ten Commandments on government property is constitutionally permissible in some cases but not in others. A pair of 5-4 decisions left future disputes on the contentious church-state issue to be settled case-by-case. Full Story -----------------------------------------------

Prime Ministers of Bahrain and Pakisttan agree to enhance co-operation

ISLAMABAD, June 27: Prime Minister of Bahrain Sheikh Khalifa bin Salman Al Khalifa on Monday called for cooperation between the private and public sectors of the two countries in various fields to further strengthen their ties. Speaking at a banquet hosted in his honour by Prime Minister Shaukat Aziz, he said that the two countries have agreed to enhance cooperation in commerce and trade.

He said Pakistan and Bahrain need to exchange visits in the financial sector to forge closer cooperation

A foreign journalist had to wear a robe to cover herself while she was recently in Iran. She was happy to cover her head too.

Raped Girl Muktharan Mai gets her passport back.

Ready for USA? ANAA ... waits for her but will she be allowed to travel even now? ISLAMABAD: During the interval at a court hearing, Mukhtar Mai told Daily Times that the government had given back her passport. “I received my passport last night”. Asked if she would apply for a US visa again, she said she had not dropped her plan to visit the US but she could not say anything definite about the future.

Protest .....members of Senate & National Assembly of Pakistan register their point of view at a press conference.

Opposition parties leaders in Pakistan hold protest meetings gainst the high handedness of the Government.

Different Americans have different feelings about Pakistan and rape cases

Friends of America

• A women is raped every 2 hours in Pakistan while a woman in USA is raped every 6 minutes ...
• So do some thing to stop it ?

Two published letters addressed to New York Times recently for your interest.

In "The 11-Year-Old Wife" (column, June 21), Nicholas D. Kristof recounts the absurdly awful human rights record of the current regime in Pakistan, one of our closest allies in the Middle East-Central Asia region. Other good friends there include the repressive and exploitive Saudi royal family, and Islam A. Karimov, the "president for life" of Uzbekistan, whose human rights record is accepted as one of the worst in the world. With friends like these ...

How does it happen that we speak out of one side of our collective national mouth about bringing our love of democracy to the world's oppressed, and, from the other side, we praise and reward people like the above named? Do we really believe that nobody is catching on?

John Smart Park Falls, Wis., June 21, 2005

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To the Editor:

In response to critics who voice embarrassment that his columns about rape in Pakistan are drawing attention to barbarism in that country, Nicholas D. Kristof suggests as a comparison the embarrassment Americans feel about Abu Ghraib and Guantánamo.

But he does not mention another source of national shame. Mr. Kristof laments the fact that in Pakistan, one woman is raped every two hours. In the United States, with a population less than twice the size of Pakistan, F.B.I. statistics indicate that one woman is estimated to be raped every six minutes.

When we focus on what are assumed to be cultural or religious sources of gendered violence, we often fail to look in the mirror. We should take seriously the problem of rape in both nations. Leti Volpp Silver Spring, Md., June 21, 2005

Source: www.nytimes.com dated June 27th, 2005.(col: letters)

Thank you New York Times & ANAA for fighting for Muktharan Mai.

Muktharan Mai who was supported by the New York Times has been removed from the banned peoples' list to go out. Her passport has been returned, is is learnt here according to the latest news. Now she is all out to travel to USA on the invitation of a USA based Pakistan Doctors' Association and AANA. She was, otherwise, to travel to the States on the coming July 2nd to speak there on the plight of women in Pakistan. AANA is fighting against the women abuse in Pakistan.

US Muslim woman files suit over head-scarf issue.

 

MIAMI: A US Muslim woman has filed suit against a Florida apartment complex where she had sought employment, after being told she would not be permitted to wear her headscarf to work.

Plaintiff Danine Hammond, 27, filed suit in Orange County in central Florida against the apartment complex where she had been scheduled to begin working in April 2004, after a supervisor told her that before starting her job she would have to remove her religious head covering.

Even a bird has to look for food not only for one's own self but for their little ones too. The birth is feeding the littles in her home located at the top of the tree.

Second Shark attack within 4 days ....Take notice

Shark Attacks 2nd Teen Off Fla. Panhandle
PENSACOLA, Fla. (AP) - A teenage boy fishing in waist-deep water Monday was bitten and critically injured in the second shark attack in three days along the Florida Panhandle. Craig A. Hutto, 16, of Lebanon, Tenn., was taken to Bay Medical Center in Panama City, where his leg was amputated. He was listed in critical condition but was expected to recover, said hospital spokeswoman Christa Hild

GITMO handling up-setting people all over.

Senators Seek Rules for Gitmo Detainees
WASHINGTON (AP) - Two Democratic senators, just back from Guantanamo Bay, said Monday that Congress should come up with concrete rules for handling detainees at the U.S. prison there. Sens. Ron Wyden of Oregon and Ben Nelson of Nebraska said more precise rules would help ensure that prisoners would not be abused and that the United States would not suffer further embarrassments because of the way detainees were treated.

BTK killer of 10 pleades Guilty .....

Suspect Pleads Guilty in BTK Murder Case
WICHITA, Kan. (AP) - The man accused of being the BTK serial killer pleaded guilty Monday to 10 murders that spread fear across Wichita beginning in the 1970s, recounting with a chilling, almost professorial air how he "trolled" for victims and then shot, stabbed or strangled them. Dennis Rader, a 60-year-old former code inspector and church president with a wife and children, said he killed to satisfy his sexual fantasies

Listen .....Citizen of LAMAR (MO) .... my Town in the USA.

Top Comment

Listen up, citizens of Lamar! Get your recall petitions ready, get them signed and get going to recall each and every member of the city council. It's time to throw the bums out of office when they become tyrants. Remember 1776! -Robbie for the story, Family says offer for property unfair Read the Story... Respond to this comment... (Source: Joplin Globe)

Yes, Billy Graham deserved all this at 84.

Clintons Join Crusaders in N.Y. Washington Post Sun, 26 Jun 2005 10:20 PM PDT Former president Bill Clinton and Sen. Hillary Rodham Clinton (D-N.Y.) took seats onstage during a surprise appearance Saturday night at the second installment of the Rev. Billy Graham's three-day crusade in New York, which the 86-year-old evangelist has suggested could be his last.

Amna Buttar of ANAA writes regarding improving awareness of Pakistan women.

Dear Mr Butt, Thanks so much for your support. We at ANAA want to help all the victims by advocating for repealment of zina ordinance, and by improving awareness to stop honor killing and jirga crimes etc. We have tried helping individual cases in the past and decided that it was beyond the scope of our organization. We want to work for social change to prevent such crimes. We welcome any help we can get; Zafar Iqbal will give you a call today to explain our organizations goals and see how you can help. May we add you to our listserv? Amna Buttar ------------------------------------------------------------------ Join ANAA by enlisting

Pakistan reduced to a Country with no Voice.

Afghan President blames Pakistan for the recent  unrest in Afghanistan. He is further not ready to listen to General Musharraf's point of view and demanding of him to stop border crossing of anti-social elements in to Afghanistan.  www.nation.com.pk

Importance of Education 14 centuries back.

Quest for education ... It was very difficult to travel to China ..? "Go in quest of knowledge even as far as China." ~ The Prophet Muhammad (slm)

President Kennedy remembered as Berliner.

"Ich bin ein Berliner" ...
See a larger version of this front page.		On June 26, 1963, President Kennedy visited West Berlin, where he made his famous declaration: "Ich bin ein Berliner" (I am a Berliner). (Go to article.) On June 26, 1914, Babe Zaharias, the American athlete known for her achievements in golf, basketball and track and field, was born. Following her death on Sept. 27, 1956, her obituary appeared in The Times. (Go to obit. Other Birthdays)
		On June 26, 1909, Harper's Weekly featured a cartoon about the battle of the sexes over a game of golf. (See the cartoon and read an explanation.)

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Some actors of 'The War of the World'

"War of Worlds"  - family

Tom in 'The War of Worlds' .... written by G.H. Wills

How it looks ? See !!!

Steven Spielberg & Tom Cruise Interview

First published in 1898, 'The War of the Worlds' presents a frightening picture of alien invasion. Academy Award®-winning director Steven Spielberg, known for films about more hospitable intergalactic guests, warns anyone looking for long-fingered friendly space travellers: "This is not one of my sweet, cuddly, benign alien stories." Click here for the War Of The Worlds trailer

Pooja Bedi is happy and talks to the press on her recent success in her film carrier. She is a popular actress from Bollywood.

Pakistan Ministers robbed and manhandled.

Minister mobbed, manhandled KARACHI, June 24: Minister of State for Religious Affairs Dr Aamir Liaquat Husain and provincial minister for Planning and Development Shoaib Bukhari were mobbed and manhandled when they visited the Jamia...

Musharraf pledges to quell terrorism ISLAMABAD, June 24: President General Pervez Musharraf said on Friday that Pakistan remained firm in its commitment to root out terrorism but stressed the cooperation of international community and regional...

Dr. Tahmina Rashid from Bangladesh on Mukhtaran Mai's ordeal.

Perceptions

Sir: Had Mukhtar Mai been allowed to go abroad it would have served the purpose of the regime. She had nothing against the regime. So why did the all-powerful President Pervez Musharraf – remember him showing his fists in the parliament? – shiver at the thought of her attending a seminar? Why did he think she was going to malign his liberal achievements and that too in the United States?

Musharraf is right in saying that Pakistan is a victim of poor perceptions. But the fact is that reality is not so good either. Amnesty International reports that in Pakistan a woman is raped every two hours. Stopping victims from sharing the ways to deal with the plight of women, making them leave the country or banning organisations working for social reform will not solve the problems. Human rights cannot be dismissed as foreign agenda.
DR TAHMINA RASHID
Bangladesh

Boat is the only means of transport during floods in Bangladesh. A family is being shifted to a saver place during the recent flood.